If you want to be successful faster, easier and have a lot more fun in the process, you have to give up the belief and the phrase, I can't. You have to start believing that you can. Even if you haven't been able to in the past, figure out a way to get it done.
Take the following phrases for example.
I can't make money online
I can't find the capital I need to expand
I can't understand the technology
I can't be a success at marketing
I can't quit my job
I can't change my career
I can't spend any more time
I can't discipline myself enough
I can't go for my dreams
I can't set goals
I can't be successful
I can't....(fill in the blank)
How many times have you used one of those or something similar?
That list is by no means exhaustive. You'll have to look into your own life and see for yourself where the "I can't virus" has infected your mind.
But let me give you some help, because it's a really tricky virus.
It infected you many years ago, probably in childhood. It snuck its way in and settled down deep in your unconscious. Then it began to multiply itself. It began to grow at an alarming rate. Yet there was nothing you could do about it. Why? Because you didn't even know it was there.
It was like a sniper, hidden but extremely dangerous and deadly.
It began to shut down your hopes, your dreams. It began to shut you down.
Then it lay dormant, just waiting for a new positive possibility to come by so it could take it out immediately.
The point is that every time you say, "I can't", it costs you something. It costs you time. It costs you energy. It costs you money. But it has deeper costs that are hidden. It stops you from believing in yourself and trusting yourself and those are far worse costs to consider.
In reality, what you are really saying is, "I don't want to. Or, I am too afraid to. Or, it will be too painful."
I CAN'T is the easy way out. I CAN'T lets you off the hook because it's usually followed by a very good excuse. For example, maybe you've said I can't start a new business because I couldn't possibly take on one more thing.
If that seems valid, consider this. If I offered you a chance to fly to your favorite place in the world and stay at a resort for a week all expenses paid, you wouldn't say, "I can't take on one more thing."
You would do whatever it took to have that vacation because in reality, YOU CAN. You can because you want to. That's the bottom line. Anyone will do anything if he or she really wants to.
Take a look at your life. Look at the results you currently have. Are they what you really want, or has the I CAN'T bug taken over? You'll have to dig deep. You'll have to really search. The virus doesn't want to be found.
Here's your assignment. It's a simple one. Just do 1 thing that you have not done because you "couldn't". It could be a big thing or a small thing. Just do something. When you're done, take note of how you feel. You'll see that you feel better and that doing whatever it was that you couldn't do was really no big deal.
And if you can do that 1 thing, what else could you do if you stop saying, I CAN'T?
Having success in business is no different. There will be things that you'll want to say, "I can't." They'll be things you'll want to avoid because they seem difficult. I say, do them anyway. If you say, "I can't" over and over again, you'll never have the business success you're after. On the other hand, if you remove that phrase from your vocabulary, you'll be much happier and ultimately more successful.
Take the following phrases for example.
I can't make money online
I can't find the capital I need to expand
I can't understand the technology
I can't be a success at marketing
I can't quit my job
I can't change my career
I can't spend any more time
I can't discipline myself enough
I can't go for my dreams
I can't set goals
I can't be successful
I can't....(fill in the blank)
How many times have you used one of those or something similar?
That list is by no means exhaustive. You'll have to look into your own life and see for yourself where the "I can't virus" has infected your mind.
But let me give you some help, because it's a really tricky virus.
It infected you many years ago, probably in childhood. It snuck its way in and settled down deep in your unconscious. Then it began to multiply itself. It began to grow at an alarming rate. Yet there was nothing you could do about it. Why? Because you didn't even know it was there.
It was like a sniper, hidden but extremely dangerous and deadly.
It began to shut down your hopes, your dreams. It began to shut you down.
Then it lay dormant, just waiting for a new positive possibility to come by so it could take it out immediately.
The point is that every time you say, "I can't", it costs you something. It costs you time. It costs you energy. It costs you money. But it has deeper costs that are hidden. It stops you from believing in yourself and trusting yourself and those are far worse costs to consider.
In reality, what you are really saying is, "I don't want to. Or, I am too afraid to. Or, it will be too painful."
I CAN'T is the easy way out. I CAN'T lets you off the hook because it's usually followed by a very good excuse. For example, maybe you've said I can't start a new business because I couldn't possibly take on one more thing.
If that seems valid, consider this. If I offered you a chance to fly to your favorite place in the world and stay at a resort for a week all expenses paid, you wouldn't say, "I can't take on one more thing."
You would do whatever it took to have that vacation because in reality, YOU CAN. You can because you want to. That's the bottom line. Anyone will do anything if he or she really wants to.
Take a look at your life. Look at the results you currently have. Are they what you really want, or has the I CAN'T bug taken over? You'll have to dig deep. You'll have to really search. The virus doesn't want to be found.
Here's your assignment. It's a simple one. Just do 1 thing that you have not done because you "couldn't". It could be a big thing or a small thing. Just do something. When you're done, take note of how you feel. You'll see that you feel better and that doing whatever it was that you couldn't do was really no big deal.
And if you can do that 1 thing, what else could you do if you stop saying, I CAN'T?
Having success in business is no different. There will be things that you'll want to say, "I can't." They'll be things you'll want to avoid because they seem difficult. I say, do them anyway. If you say, "I can't" over and over again, you'll never have the business success you're after. On the other hand, if you remove that phrase from your vocabulary, you'll be much happier and ultimately more successful.
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